
How do you prove the unprovable? How do you prove you love your spouse? You do everything you can to make them happy, you are there when they need you, you buy them gifts and take romantic trips, and show your love to everyone who comes around, right? You would think so, but we’ve been shown numerous times that those things don’t really mean much at all. I mean, look at the recently convicted wife-and-unborn-baby murderer, Scott Peterson.
To the outside world, and probably even to Laci herself, he seemed like the ideal husband, by all accounts. Yet, he was carrying on at least one illicit affair, and he killed his “beloved” wife and unborn son, and showed not the least sorrow, grief, or remorse for it. So, how do you prove something like love? It seems to me it just has to be something in the way you live your life, year after year, and once you’re dead and gone, or your spouse is, people can look back and see that yes, you really did love him/her. Unless you’re really good at hiding your sins.
So, how do you prove your love for your country? Sound like a strange question, and I guess it is, but in this day and age, when some people are demanding some form of proof about it, I think it’s a fair question. You see, I’ve been on the receiving end of those kinds of statements, and I know very well how hard it is to make people see they are wrong.
I am a Democrat living in a very Republican area, and I’ve spent a lot of time since making my choice knowing I am looked at with mistrust by some people who don’t even know me. Let me give you a few examples of things I’ve had to deal with. Now, I am sure there are people on the other side who have had such things happen to them, also, but I can assure you, it hasn’t been done by me.
A lot of my problems began when I stuck a “Flush Rush” sticker on my rear bumper. Now, I’d been driving at least 30 years by that time, and I’d gotten two tickets in my life - once when I first started driving and got stopped for speeding down a road with no speed limit signs, and once about 10 years later for driving on tires that were too worn. I never got another one until I put the bumper sticker on. And since I traded up to a new car, I haven’t had another one. Isn’t that funny?
The first thing that happened was I was pulled over one night while driving home from my daughter’s choral performance at the high school. We took her friend home, and when I pulled up to the curb at her house, flashing lights turned on behind me, and a policeman got out and came to the window. I asked what I’d done, and he simply asked where I was coming from. I told him, then asked again what I’d done wrong. He said someone matching my description, in a car the color of mine, had driven off after filling up with gas and not paying.
Before long there were several police cars around me, and I was really getting worried. My kids were scared, too, and having the people who lived around there standing out on their lawns thinking a major bust had just occurred wasn’t a great feeling, either. I sat there, on a school night, already past nine o’clock, while the police milled around, talking to each other, for at least a half hour. Finally the first cop came over and bruskly told me they’d caught the person who’d done it, and I was allowed to leave. Ok, it could happen.
Next, I had taken two of my kids to spend the night with a friend across town, and on the way back I was stopped. Again, I asked what I’d done wrong. He said he wasn’t sure he’d seen my turn signal when I turned the corner. Now, I know it was on, because I had to manually turn it off, but he began asking what I was doing, why I’d been over at the apartments, where I was going, and finally, why my passenger side window was down. I answered his questions, finally saying I had that window down because I wanted some air, but not as much as having the drivers side down would have given me.
He said nothing, but walked around the car, looking on the ground with his flashlight, as if searching for something. When he got back, he said he wanted to make sure I hadn’t tossed “evidence” out the window. Now, I’m not your typical druggie, I look nothing like one. I’m an old lady, with six kids, who’s lived a hard life, but I don’t do drugs and don’t look like someone who does. Besides, I’ve lived in this town since I was a kid, everyone knows me, and I have friends in town who are cops and I know they know everyone who’s been around a while. It’s a very small town. There was no need for the stop, except to harrass me.
There were other times I was stopped during this period, never ending in a citation of any kind, just the harrassing “stop-and-check” things that mean absolutely nothing. And again, not one single stop since the car with the bumper sticker was traded in. I’m a thinking person, I have common sense, and I can add quite well, so it’s not hard to see one plus one equals two, expecially when it’s right in front of my face. I was being targeted by every right-wing blackbooted thug in a uniform simply because they didn’t like my belief that Rush is a moron. Simple as that.
On to other examples. One morning I took my kids and went to the local grocery store to do our weekly shopping. I found a spot right in front, heading inward toward the store. We went in, bought what we needed, came out and put the groceries in the car, and were ready to stop by McDonald’s for a treat. A car full of young guys drove by and yelled something I didn’t hear, and I looked to see if it was someone I knew. They were all looking at us and grinning, but they didn’t look familiar to me, so I got in the car and got ready to pull out.
As I started to do so, the same car came back by and stopped behind me, blocking me in the spot, and started yelling that I was a Commie, I was stupid, etc. My kids got scared, wondering why they were saying things like that, and I yelled back at the guys to get out of my way so I could leave. The car pulled back a bit and I started to pull out, but when I put the car into drive and started to turn into the driving lane, the car pulled up in front of me, blocking me in again while they yelled insults and threats at me, scaring my kids even more. Then they drove off laughing like idiots. All because of a bumper sticker.
I took my son to his weekly Saturday morning city league basketball game, and while waiting for the warmups to end and the game to begin, my son talked to his coach, a young man of college age. The next thing I knew, my son yelled across the gym to me, asking what a Communist was. That was a strange thing for him to ask, so I asked him why he’d done it. He said, still yelling and in front of all the other parents and players, etc, that were there “Because coach says that’s what you are.” Everyone in there turned and looked at me, and I was so mortified I just wanted to run, but I wouldn’t let myself do that in front of my kids, so I yelled back and told him Communists aren’t anything he has to worry about since they are mostly all gone now. I was left wondering if this coach had been one of the guys in that car.
We had a couple more run ins after that, with him being a staunch Republican and me being a staunch Democrat. He just couldn’t seem to understand kid’s games and practices are not political arenas. The final straw was when he was hired to coach the Junior High basketball team, told the kids he would be making cuts the next Tuesday, then pulled me aside and told me right then, on Friday, that I had to tell my son he was being cut. Not because he couldn’t play the game, because he is very good at it and made the team during his other years in JH and high school, so I know it was because I was his mother. That didn’t make it any easier to try to explain why he was cut, and why it was done ahead of the scheduled cuts he’d announced.
So you see, I know whereof I speak here, and it’s not a fun position to be put into, especially when my kids are dragged into the middle of it. I will argue my beliefs and the reasons for them to anyone who wants to do so, but when they do things that scare and upset my kids just to “get me” for those beliefs, they really cross the line.
I am here today to state loudly and firmly I love my country as much as any other American, I don’t care their political beliefs or any other thing. I don’t feel, however, that I have to wrap myself in the American Flag at every chance, or get into a pissing contest over who has the biggest, best, or most flags and patriotic symbols on myself, my home, or my car. I also don’t think I have to agree with everything the current President, no matter who or fromwhat party, says and does. I don’t have to accept a war that is getting more and more of our sons and daughters killed every day when I totally, thoroughly disagree with it. And that doesn’t mean I don’t support the military and the troops that are over there fighting. I do, which is why I oppose having them risking their lives for something they never should have been pushed into.
I love my country, and I’ve taught my children to love and respect it, just as my parents did with me and my brother. When I go to a parade, I stand and salute as the color guard goes by, as do my kids, and my sons take their hats off while doing so. I vote in every election, no matter what it seems the outcome will be, simply because it’s my duty as an American. I go to jury duty when called, and I cry like a baby when the National Anthemn is played or sung. I am an American, body, soul, heart, and mind, and I am proud of that. That doesn’t mean I can’t be ashamed of what our leaders do in my name, and it doesn’t mean I can’t be angry when they do stupid, unneccesary things that make others hate us even more.
And just in case anyone still doesn’t get it - I LOVE THE UNITED STATES OFAMERICA!